Category Archives: Sexual Assault

So…Do you want to?

Asking for consent before you engage in sexual activity is important because it will keep you and your partner comfortable and in control of what is going happening.  When asking your partner for consent, there is no right or wrong way.  You just have to say what feels most comfortable for you in the situation, whether that means you get straight to the point or sugar coat it.  Some ways to ask for consent are:


  • Can I kiss you?
  • What are you comfortable with?
  • May I …?
  • Would you like to try this with me?


If you still feel unsure on what to say, just remember to ask exactly what you would like to do with your partner and get a yes or no answer.  If your partner gives you a vague answer or seems hesitant on what to say, that may be a sign that they don’t want to engage in the activity.  If that happens, tell your partner that it is okay if they don’t want to engage in that activity or anything at all. 
Once you and your partner have given consent, that does not mean things can’t stop.  You and your partner always have a right to say “no”, even if an agreement was made beforehand.  Some examples of what a partner might be doing if they want you to stop are:


  • Lack of eye contact
  • No response
  • Discomfort or tensing up
  • Saying things like, “I’m not sure,” “I’m scared,” or “Wait, I…”


If your partner doesn’t show any of the signs listed above but you feel that they might want to stop, just ask.  Overall, taking the time to pay attention to how your partner is responding will make them feel comfortable and respected. 
It’ll also help you to know when you are doing something right because your partner is giving you “yes” signs. Some examples of a “yes” sign are:


  • Telling you to keep going
  • Directing you on how to do something
  • Telling you that they are okay with that


Just remember to ask for consent before engaging in any sexual activity, pay attention to the “yes” or “no” signals, and always stop if you or your partner don’t want to engage in the activity anymore.  
If you are going to be sexually active, make sure you are always using protection.  The only way to be 100% safe from sexually transmitted infections and unwanted pregnancy is to abstain from sexual activity.  Information in this blog was found from Think About It.   ​

UND Student Health Services Hours for Friday, November 23rd

Please note that UND Student Health Services will be open from 9:00 AM – 1:00 PM on Friday, November 23rd (the Day after Thanksgiving Holiday) to serve students.

Students can make an appointment by calling 777-2605 or use our Online Appointment Form. You may also call 777-4500.  We do our best to work in students who have an urgent medical situation, but it is best to call ahead to minimize delays.  Please call in advance if you need to cancel or reschedule your appointment.

If students need care after hours, non-emergency services are available at Altru Urgent Care, which is located next to the Emergency Room at Altru Hospital on South Columbia Road. For information call 701-780-5968.

In the case of an emergency, please dial “911” or proceed to the Emergency Room at

Altru Hospital.Altru Hospital

1200 S. Columbia Rd.
Grand Forks, ND 58201



Please Note: Student and/or student’s health insurance provider are responsible for the costs of emergency and non-emergency after hours care (to include Office Visit and any other applicable ancillary service charges). 

Exception:  In the event student is a Student Blue subscriber and SHS is closed, an Authorized Referral may be issued.  When an Authorized Referral is issued the Copayment Amounts will be waived for Office Visits and Emergency Services from a Participating Health Care Provider.  An Authorized Referral does not guarantee payment of benefits. Benefits for services received as a result of an Authorized Referral are subject to the conditions, limitations and exclusions of this Benefit Plan. Benefit payment will be denied if the Subscriber is not covered under this Benefit Plan on the date the services are provided.

After hours care is also available through several local community providers:

Altru Family Medicine Center              8:00 AM – 5:00 PM

1380 S. Columbia Rd.
Grand Forks, ND 58201

Altru Family Medicine Residency         8:00 AM – 5:00 PM (conveniently located on UND Campus)

725 Hamline St
Grand Forks, ND 58203-2819

Aurora Clinic                                      8:00 AM – 5:00 PM

1451 44th Ave S Unit F
Grand Forks, ND 58201

Aurora Urgent Care                             8:00 AM – 6:30 PM

Dr. Cedric Masa – Julie Solberg, PA-C – Dr. Matthew Viscito, MD
2650 32nd Avenue South, Suite D
Grand Forks, ND 58201

National HIV Testing Day – June 27, 2012

We hear about it. We talk about it. And then we dismiss it. Until it happens to someone you know –  an acquaintance, a friend, a family member. But are we concerned enough to think it could happen to us?

HIV/AIDS – What is it, really?

Today is National HIV Testing Day. But what do we really know about this deadly disease?

Human Immunodeficiency Virus infection/ Acquired Immunodeficiency Syndrome (HIV/AIDS) is a disease that affects the human immune system. It is caused by the Human Immunodeficiency Virus (HIV). Due to its impact on the immune system (weakens the immune system), HIV/AIDS increases the likelihood of infections, viral flues and tumors that do not normally affect those with healthy, working immune systems. These problems increase and worsen over time as the disease progresses.

HIV/AIDS is a huge health problem and is considered a pandemic due to its active presence in many parts of the world. The disease is transmitted mainly through sexual intercourse, hypodermic needles, and contact with contaminated blood. It is also transmitted from mother to child through pregnancy, childbirth and breast-feeding.

Is There a Cure?

There is no known cure for HIV/AIDS, but antiretroviral treatments can slow down its course, and may even allow patients to lead a near-normal life expectancy. However, this treatment is very expensive and may have side effects. According to UNAIDS 2011, approximately 34 million people have HIV globally, a statistic as of 2010.

Diagnosis and Testing

HIV testing is recommended for anyone diagnosed with a sexually transmitted disease, as well as those known to be at high risk, such as drug users. HIV is diagnosed through laboratory testing, where they look for antibodies in blood or saliva.

While doctors recommend testing for patients with risk of contracting the disease, many people choose not to get tested for fear of being diagnosed HIV positive. It is extremely important to get tested and get treatment as soon as possible. Significant improvements have been made over the last 50 years since the disease was recognized by the Center for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) in 1981.

Here in the United States, access to treatment and care is readily available, more so than anywhere else in the world; yet statistics of people infected (and new diagnoses) remain about the same (UNAID 2011). This shows that the problem is not access to care, but rather education and awareness and of course, the realization that it can, in fact, happen to you.

Testing is crucial to detect, treat and prevent HIV infection. Getting tested is the first step in receiving access to health care and support systems whose mission is to ensure your survival and give you a good quality of life. Getting tested and then treated is important not just for you, but also to reduce the chance of you transmitting the disease to others.

Get Educated. Get Tested. Help Prevent HIV/AIDS.

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The C*ck Block

Yep, you read that title right: “The Cock Block”.

Have you ever seen the show Jersey Shore?  Well if you haven,’t, I’ll fill you in.

On the show, you see a group of four guys and four gals who all move into a summer house together.  You follow them along throughout their summer and the majority of what you see is them going out to clubs every night and getting completely smashed.  The guys (and some nights the gals too) look for ladies that are DTF (Down To F…. I’ll let you guess the last word), or girls to bring home and “smush”, their word for have sex with.  There is usually some drama, the occasional fight, and a big of relationship drama that goes along with it.  But all in all, the show does a really good job of making you believe that all these people do is go out, every single night, get drunk and have sex (when in reality there is a lot more to each of their lives than just this).

Here is the kicker, in North Dakota, there is this policy that says if someone has impaired judgment and reasoning, they cannot legally consent to sex.  Doesn’t matter if you’re a guy or a gal; if their judgment and reasoning are impaired, they could charge for sexual assault.

So let’s add alcohol.

When we drink, the first thing that happens is alcohol slows down our central nervous system (’cause alcohol is a depressant and that’s what depressants do).  So the central nervous system is the stuff that lets your brain tell the rest of your body what to do.  So it’s telling me to breath right now, for my heart to beat and for my fingers to push down the keys it tells it to.  Once you get to a 0.10 Blood Alcohol Content (so this is when slurred speak starts, balance is a bit off, and you start to get tired and feel less of the buzz) your judgment and reasoning is impaired.  SO, if you like to go out and party looking for someone to have sex with DON’T DO IT IF THEY HAVE SLURRED SPEECH! OR, if YOU, have slurred speech!  If their speech is slurred, their judgment is off and they could later choose to pursue sexual assault charges!

My friends, if you’re gonna go out and drink, go with friends and LOOK OUT FOR ONE ANOTHER!  Here it comes- are you ready for it? COCK BLOCK EACH OTHER! I know I sound ridiculous (who want’s to be cock blocked?) but seriously! If you see your friend hitting on someone who has slurred speech and you know your friend is looking to “get it in”, COCK BLOCK THEM!  Tell ‘em, “hey! not tonight!  get their number!  text ‘em tomorrow, do it tomorrow once you’re both sober”.  If they’re a good friend, they’ll thank you for it later.


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