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Social wellness refers to your ability to meet the expectations and demands of our personal roles without harming others. This means learning good communication skills, developing intimacy with others and creating a support network of friends and family members who care about and love you for who you are. Social wellness includes showing respect for others. By joining a group or organization, you create a sense of belonging in which you can contribute to the group, your community, and to the world. In this way, you are not only respecting others, but you are respecting yourself as well.

Halloween

It’s that tim1e of year again. Zombie pub crawls and terrifying drinks are on the menu once more. Thanks to the KNOW campaign, we all know that a standard drink is one 12 oz. beer, 5 oz. of wine, and 1.5 oz. of hard liquor. Pretty straight forward, right? But what about mixed drinks? I’m going to talk about safe ways to get your spook on without ending up under a tombstone.

4There are some gross looking drinks that come out around Halloween. Take the Alien Brain Hemorrhage. Thanks to the different densities of the alcohol (YAY SCIENCE!), the different types of alcohol separate instead of mix. No matter how nasty looking it is, try to limit yourself so your own brain doesn’t end up looking like that!

The Green Goblin is 3another common Halloween themed drink. It is a mixed drink, containing more alcohol than you would think. One serving of this eerie potion is actually 1.7 standard drinks.

 

Last, but certainly not least, The Zombie. The website I found had a tagline for it, something along the lines of “Strong enough to wake the dead.” This spooky 2concoction is actually 2.8 standard drinks in one glass. If you are following the 0-1-2-3 low risk approach to drinking, one Zombie and you are done for the night.

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Hockey is Back!

The UND Men’s Ice Hockey team will begin its regular season this Friday, October 10th against Bemidji State. Men’s Hockey is without a doubt UND’s most popular sporting event and is often paired with heavy drinking. As the season gets under way, it is important to know a few things about drinking at the Ralph Engelstad Arena (REA). To consume alcohol at the REA you must be 21 years or older and anyone under the age of 35 must wear a wristband from one of the many ID checker stands throughout the building. For UND sporting events there is a limit of two alcoholic drinks per person and beer is permitted anywhere in the building, except the student section. The student section is completely dry (no alcoholic drinks), regardless of age, and any student that receives an alcohol related charge such as a Minor in Possession or Consumption may also have to report to UND for sanctions regarding a violation of UND’s Alcohol Policy.

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As the excitement of Hockey season comes upon us, it is important not to forget the rules of safe and responsible drinking. Many students “pre-game” for the hockey games – this is binge drinking, and it can be very dangerous so remember to stick to UND’s 0-1-2-3 of safe drinking. As a reminder, it goes as follows:

0 – Understand when not to drink, especially when you have something important going on the next day (work, test, pregnancy)

1 – Limit yourself to one drink per hour

2 – Keep drinking down to no more than two times per week

3 – Have no more than three drinks in one night

Remember to always have a sober ride. Many local bars and similar establishments will have buses located by the UND Bookstore to shuttle you to their location. Also, as a reminder, the local taxi companies will no longer be accepting debit and credit cards during Hockey season so make sure you have cash on hand.

Additional Information:

REA Policies – http://www.theralph.com/guest-services/a-z-guide

UND Alcohol Policy – http://und.edu/finance-operations/university-police/policies-alcohol.cfm

UND’s 0-1-2-3 – http://und.edu/health-wellness/hub/alcohol.cfm

Men’s Hockey Schedule – http://www.undsports.com/SportSelect.dbml?&DB_OEM_ID=13500&SPID=6405&SPSID=58682

Picture – http://pixabay.com/en/landscape-winter-snow-ice-boys-76913/

How to Help Your Friend

The dictionary definition of a friend is a person who is a supporter, a sympathizer and a lover. If we call ourselves a friend of someone we should be quick to be their support, to sympathize with them, and to love them. The best way to show these characteristics of a good friend is to care for one another in many different situations; such as after a night of heavy drinking.

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Too often we hear stories of individuals that never left a party with the people they came with and end up seriously hurt or dead the next morning. We also hear stories where the individuals were taken home by their friends, but left by themselves for the rest of the night, like the story above. Let’s not be a part of another story.

Here are a few things to remember when taking care of your friends after a night of drinking:

Place them in the Bacchus Maneuver

The Bacchus maneuver is the best way to get your friend to lay on their side in order to decrease the possibility of choking on puke. Once you have your friend on their side, you should continue to check on them; if they have rolled to their back, make sure to place them on their side once again.bacchus

Stay with your friend the whole night

Gently nudge them and check their breathing regularly. Alcohol is a depressant which can slow or even stop a few of the involuntary functions of your body, such as breathing; heart rate and blood pressure. If at any time the breathing of your friend is less than 8 breaths per minute, call emergency personnel. If your friend has fallen asleep, someone should stay with them and check on them continuously because they could become unconscious.

Keep them warm

Your friend may be sweating, but it is actually smart to make sure they are warm and have blankets near them. Alcohol lowers the body’s temperature and can cause hypothermia.

Encourage them to drink water

Alcohol causes dehydration in the body; therefore, it is wise to switch your friend’s beer bottle with a water bottle. Coffee and tea do not help to sober up; they, along with alcohol, are a diuretic and further the effects of dehydration. Time is the only thing that can help sober an individual.

Talk about it

Ask one another what activities or actions at a party they do not want to be a part of, for example, playing beer pong, going into a room alone with a guy, etc. Once you both know, you can watch out for each other at the party by reminding one another of these precautionary decisions and can pull one another away from the situations discussed.

Set Boundaries

Being a caring friend is a noble thing, but be aware of your own boundaries and abilities in this situation. Talk to your friend before going out to a party. Let your friend know what you are willing to do for her/him if he or she becomes too intoxicated. If your friend understands your boundaries, they will be less likely to become dependent upon you for the night or in the future.

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Pain Killers That Kill

…Did you know that 70% of Americans are using at least one prescription drug?…

In the past 20 years, the use of prescription stimulants has increased exponentially from 5 million to 45 million. With this increase of prescription drug use, the increase of abuse has also risen. Prescription drug abuse has become the fastest growing drug problem. The abuse of prescription drugs has caused more deaths than car accidents in the past year; it is also the 3rd leading cause of accidental death in the country.  So, why is this important to us?

As we think about the abuse of prescription drugs we start to wonder who’s doing it, how they are getting the drugs, and where it is most common. One group of people abusing prescription drugs are college-aged students. There are a few common reasons that college students abuse prescription drugs. The biggest reason?…To get high and relieve stress related to work, school, relationships, and finances. Students also use ADHD medications to stay up all night to study for a test. What these students don’t realize is just how dangerous this can be.  There are other ways to cope!

Although the percentage of college students abusing prescription drugs is quite high, the average number of students abusing prescription drugs at UND is quite low. According to the ACHA-NCHA survey and the KNOW campaign, 97.3% of students at UND do NOT abuse prescription drugs. This is an amazing and encouraging statistic! I hope UND students keep aspiring to stay drug- free and healthy. If you or a friend is struggling with a drug problem, get help right away. There are two great places to go on campus for help; Student Health Services and the University Counseling Center.

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McCannel Hall, Room #200; 701.777.2127

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McCannel Hall Room #100; 701.777.4500

The Line Continued Out the Door…

The line continued out the door- I was sure that we would run out of root beer and t-shirts by the end of the night. Having the opportunity to share many different messages regarding both alcohol and drug use, and sexual assault was extremely rewarding. The Health & Wellness Hub was very excited to be doing this for the second year in a row at Pi Kappa Alpha. It’s safe to say the House Party tour was a huge hit last week and we reached over 400 UND students!

Did you miss out on the party? Here’s what happened… Both student employees of the Health & Wellness Hub and volunteers from Housing, Fraternity/Sorority Life, and the OT program acted out scenes of a house party, including public urination, sexual violence, vomiting, alcohol overdose, and marijuana, as students were guided through the house to see every scene.  With assistance, the University’s Police department was in attendance helping act out the public urination scene, as well.

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Taegan & I had a great time at the House Party!

We are super excited to celebrate the success of our event. Here’s what UND students told us they learned from attending the House Party:

  1. 87.5% of UND students agreed or strongly agreed that the House Party increased their understanding of the negative effects of binge drinking;
  2. 90.7% of UND students agreed or strongly agreed that the House Party increased their understanding of the North Dakota Medical Amnesty Act;
  3. 90.2% of UND students agreed or strongly agreed that the House Party increased their awareness of UND campus and Grand Forks community alcohol and drug resources;
  4. 89.7% of UND students agreed or strongly agreed that the House Party increased their understanding of the relationship between alcohol and sexual violence.

Thanks to all those who helped support us in our second annual House Party! If you missed it, we hope to see you next year.

8 Laws You Should KNOW

As part of the KNOW campaign, a new awareness flyer has been distributed by the University Police Department and Grand Forks Police Department to many homes and apartments on campus and in the community. In case you missed it, here’s the high-tech version of this info.

1. Under 21: Purchase or procurement of alcohol

Punishment: Criminal offense and/or up to 30 days in jail.

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 Under 21 + alcohol = trouble.

 

2. Fake ID: possession and manufacture of false identification

Punishment: Criminal offense up to $1,000 fine and/or up to 30 days in jail.

2  If you get caught, you can spend some nice quality time getting to know “McLovin’” or “Sandy Patterson” or whoever you said you were.

3. Noisy Party: Violation: noisy party or gathering

Punishment: Criminal offense up to $1,000 fine/or up to 30 days in jail.

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Nobody wants to listen to the Beibs at 4 AM.

4. Public Drinking: consumption of alcoholic beverages prohibited on public streets or alleys

Punishment: Noncriminal breach of peace and order: up to $1,000 fine.

4Don’t party on the way to the party.

5. Serving Minors: Purchase or procurement of alcohol beverages for minors prohibited

Punishment: Criminal offense Up to $1,000 fine and/or up to 30 days in jail.

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They can wait, just like everybody else.

6. Disorderly Conduct

Punishment: Criminal offense up to $1,000 fine and/or up to 30 days in jail.

6Hide your crazy, boys and girls.

7. Marijuana: possession of marijuana.
Punishment: Criminal offense Up to $1,000 fine and/or up to 30 days in jail.

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Keep off the grass. And speaking of…

8. Trespassing: It is unlawful for any person to intentionally trespass in, on, or upon the property of another.
Punishment: Criminal offense Up to $1,000 fine and/or up to 30 days in jail.

8Get off of my lawn.

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Social Media Microphone

I remember quite clearly when Facebook was introduced to me by a friend. It was the fall of my freshman year of college, 2004, and she swore this was going to be “all the rage” in no time at all. I bought into it, thinking it’ll be a nice way to keep in touch. Of course, the trick back then was trying to get your friends to join so it would work right.

It was a time when you were limited on the number of characters you could use in a status,  and it was always “Stacey is…” You were given a lot less freedom in creating yourself on a webpage than what we have today. Things began to evolve, and soon you could have your very own picture, you could write your very own statuses (without the annoying “is” directing your path), and you could find almost anyone in the Facebook family.

My friend was right; this had become the “place to be.”

As the years have flown by, I’ve been disheartened and encouraged all at the same time. I see things like Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram as  awesome people connectors and a form of self-expression. I’m able to tell my story creatively through pictures and thoughts. I’m able to keep in touch with friends and family- both near and far. I’m able to spread the word on anything I choose…which leads me to this question for you:

What are you trying to tell the world?

As times have changed,  I’ve seen some sobering displays of disrespect, distasteful outspokenness, and downright embarrassing outbursts. I won’t lie; I’m just as guilty as many in saying that I’ve posted a thought or opinion that I’m not proud of. At the time, it was too easy to post something to “get back” at a person or vent about a situation. All I had to do was write it, hit post, and wait for the satisfaction of people liking it- and therefore obviously (-in my own mind) agreeing with me…

But that’s just.not.right. Remember when you were little, and you said something out of anger or spite, perhaps even taking a swing at someone because you felt like they deserved it in that moment- but were corrected for your behavior shortly thereafter? The trouble with Social Media Microphones is that we don’t always have a parent or a teacher that corrects our behavior or unplugs the power source- so things can escalate quickly. Feelings get hurt and friendships get lost. And unfortunately, sometimes it all happens because of a misunderstanding.

Sometimes I’m so proud of the way people use social media to spread a positive message or awareness of something, to share really exciting life news with their friends and family, to connect with new people in new ways. And sometimes… well, in the wake of things like elections or this “instant news source” that doesn’t always even allow us to know the whole story before forming opinions and taking action or the ability to create alternative personalities and profiles online to totally trick and … sometimes, I just need to quiet the World Wide Web. All of those opinions just get to be too much, and I’m not proud of our human race.

I get that there are times when emotions take over and passion is not containable, but in those moments try to go for a walk. Or write it down using a pen and paper. Find something that will make you slow down and really think about what you want to say. Many of you cannot imagine a time when you didn’t have this Social Media Microphone to blast your thoughts out to the world, but it used to exist. If I was frustrated with someone, I had to just sit with that uncomfortable feeling, write a letter, or make a phone call. 2 of those options made me face the person, and that was not always attractive enough to pursue. As a result, feelings were hurt less. Relationships were destroyed less.

You hold a lot of power with your Social Media Microphone. Use it wisely. Please remember that we’re all human on the other side of the screen.

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A new kind of Bump.

When I was younger, my “life plan” was to be married by 20 and have at least one child by 21. I was also going to live in a purple house and play saxophone for the former President Clinton. (Because he was President at the time, also played the saxophone,  and I was obsessed with that instrument.)

Then life happened.

I starting losing weight… graduated from high school… started college… lost too much weight… struggled to find my purpose… switched colleges and degrees (again)… found a healthy and attainable weight… graduated from college… first “big kid” job in a new city… new job in a different city… met a boy and his dog… bought a house… got married… next job…

and now we’re here. I’m almost 29 years old and I don’t live in a purple house. I rarely play the saxophone for ANYONE- definitely NOT the former President.

But, now the “child” thing is happening. I’m 1/2-way to meeting our newest family member, and it’s been quite the journey so far. In terms of symptoms, I’ve had a ridiculously easy pregnancy. Aside from feeling like a walking zombie for most of my baby-growing time, I’ve had just a few aches and ailments, and I’m pretty darn thankful.

My loose skin which has hung so haphazardly for 10 years is now forming into a rounded “bump.” I love that little bump.  I’ve often found myself just holding it- holding my baby- to keep it safe and show love to both the child and my body. It’s important to do that. Just as important has been to surround myself with love- having people who support me and lift me up, who encourage me with their words and actions. I’ve felt an outpouring of all of these things since sharing our exciting news and there are so many days that these people have been the reason that I am able to remember how lucky I am.

The biggest struggle in all of this has been in the growing. In the beginning, I can remember having conversations with myself about what pregnancy may entail, and that it WILL include a weight gain. A good and important kind. And there was nothing wrong with it- as long it was done in a healthy way.  I’ve worked so hard on losing and maintaining a weight loss of over 100 pounds, and for the first time since I can remember, I’m having to process that it’s OK to gain. That when a shirt or pant or skirt no longer fits it’s a natural part of the process rather than a sign that I need to kick myself for eating all those peanut M&Ms.
If any of you have lost a significant amount of weight before pregnancy, you know what I’m talking about. It’s a weird (for lack of a better word) thing to have to accept and be OK with. It’s even harder when you have the appetite of a linebacker and a strong addiction to cake and candy and French fries that no longer seems to be avoidable. I’m certain that lost a lot of my self-control, and I swear people can just smell it on me… and know just what to offer to make me drool and make my knees buckle. I mean, even the Ice Cream truck drives by me while I’m out walking and by my house at least 4 times a week (I wish I was kidding).

So for now my goal has now been to (try to) eat healthy about 90% of the day (and yes- I do count down the minutes), as well as try to get some form of physical activity in almost every day… I know I eat more than I should, so this way I rest a little easier knowing that I’m trying. Like I said, I’m by no means perfect (like the times I’ve eaten jars of peanut butter as a “snack,” or the entire popcorn cake by myself, or that pan of delicious double cake, or….), but I give it a shot. Every day.  Just like I did before I was growing a human.

I want my child(ren) to grow up with healthy self images and love their bodies rather than avoid any reflective surface because they hate what they see. I want them to see food as fuel rather than “good or bad.” And I want them to enjoy playing rather than feeling like they need to torture themselves with exercise. I know that all of these messages- negative and realistic- are out there. And I know I can be one of the first to send the “right” messages about bodies and health from an early age.

Until Baby D arrives, I can practice being a good role model to those around me by keeping my self-talk positive, by forgiving myself for the jar of peanut butter, by appreciating the fact that I can still exercise and eat what I want.
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Is THAT what You call Commitment?

Throughout your day, if you really think about it you commit to a lot. You commit to the outfit you’re wearing. You commit to wearing your seatbelt on the way to school/work. You commit to riding your bike or walking to work. You commit to your responsibilities at work. You commit to cooking supper or maybe choosing where to pick up something to eat. You commit to taking the dog for a walk or going to the gym. You commit to sleeping at night.

Do you think of it that way? Do you see your life as a series of choices to commitments you make?

Maybe I’m off… maybe your car is broken so you HAVE to ride your bike or walk. Maybe your favorite shirt is dirty so you HAVE to wear the other shirt. Maybe it’s raining out so you HAVE to find a different way of exercising. But really, don’t you still have a choice in committing to these things at a certain level?
I mean, you could call for a ride, you could pick your 2nd favorite shirt, you could embrace your exercising alternative… do you see what I mean?

I’m not saying that you need to walk around and high five everyone you pass on the street because you were “tasked” with picking up all of the dog poop at a recent volunteer event… but you could at the very least remain a pleasant human being. I think most people would agree that isn’t the best job in the world, but you are greatly appreciated for doing it. Pull up your big kid pants and put a smile on your face- after all, it’s only temporary!

There are other times when you choose to do things- like attend an after work event with coworkers. It’s up to you to be mindful and respectful of all of the others present with your conversation… meaning, you aren’t bashing those who chose not to come. And you aren’t negatively simmering over the fact that you showed up. You are simply there and enjoying whatever unfolds. Choosing to see the bright side of your choice and only worrying about yourself.

Commitment… what does it look like? In my mind, it looks strong. It looks reassuring. It looks positive. It looks attractive.

What does your commitment look like?

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